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Cut the Crap and Stop Shaming Women during – ‘ That Time of the Month ‘ !!!


I am a woman. I am proud of my essential being. I am proud of the fact that i can create, bear and bring a new life to this world. Even the society around me is proud of me for being able to generate life. However there’s one thing which is ironical here – The world celebrates a woman for fertility , for life but shames her for the very phenomena that is responsible for her fertility in the first place. Yes, the world shames her for ‘menstruation.’ It’s the year 2015. The world is rapidly progressing and that too scientifically. Yet even in the year 2015 , a lot of women across countries, cultures, and religions are stigmatized when ‘that time of the month arrives.’ Sad part is that most people (women included) don’t even have a rational explanation for this regressive approach towards menstruating women. They do it because they have been following their ancestors or maybe because they are too unaware to question and find the answers. When i talk about people here, i do not mean some kind of tribal folks or people from rural backgrounds. Not at all. The urban folks are very much included. Folks that are literate( I’m not deliberately using the word education here because literacy and education are two very different things).

A woman is made to feel like some kind of an inferior ‘creature’ when she is on her period. In fact a lot of times women don’t even speak about it. They hush it up as if it’s some kind of a sinful act.  I’ve come across some bizarre practices followed by people .Not just bizarre but obnoxious and some times just foolish. Let me give you some examples : In a lot of households , a menstruating woman is NOT allowed to enter the kitchen, NOT allowed to eat pickles, NOT even allowed to bake cakes, NOT allowed to go to a temple for worship ( in case of Hinduism), NOT allowed to sleep on the same bed as her husband, definitely NOT allowed intimacy, is given a separate section of the house to reside , in some extreme cases. Not just Hinduism , every religion in the world puts restrictions on menstruating women (except Sikhism). In Islam, menstruating women are not allowed to touch the Quran, enter the mosque, offer the ritual prayer or be intimate with her husband for seven full days. The woman is also exempted from rituals such as daily prayers and fasting. The Jewish ‘Code of Law’ – The Halakha prohibits any physical contact between a man and a woman during menstruation.Likewise, in Christianity too (especially Catholic Christians) a menstruating woman is considered ‘unclean’ and ‘impure.’ So she’s not allowed to touch the Bible, attend Church Services or even touch raw food. Surprisingly, even a religion like Buddhism does not allow women to circumambulate around the Stupas during menstruation.

Madras visit. 1734

The picture right above is that of a board in front of the main entrance of a reputed temple in Chennai. The priest of the temple has not even spelled the word ‘sanctity’ correctly and yet wants women out of the temple during ,”that time of the month.” Anyway, the retrograde rituals restricting a menstruating woman from eating, worshiping, moving to certain places and being intimate with her partner are practically the same across religions. I can quote the exact lines from the scriptures of the religions, I’ve mentioned above but it’ll take a lot of important space here. So being a Hindu by birth, i’d just like to explain the MYTH because of which people still want to remain irrational:

“Viswaroopa the son of Thwashta was recruited as the ‘guru’(priest) fore the gods in place of Bruhaspathi, when Bruhaspathi was hidden himself because of the insult made by the Indra. Viswaroopa was killed by Indra in a cheating war, then the Indra was attacked by the Brahma-hathya Dosha’. So now indra was suffering from the ‘brahma-hathya Dosha’. After some time he asks Bruhaspathi for solution, then Bruhaspathi said ‘if there is any body to share that, then you’ll be relieved and you should give some boons to the person’ The following shared the Brahma-hathya Dosha of indra in the following manner.
1. Earth (prithvy)
2. Trees (vriksha)
3. Sea (samudra)
4. Ladies (sthree)
Earth shared the sin and releases the sin in the form of “fuller’s earth (choudu mritthika)” and got the boon that the earth will be filled or become closed even after the excavations. Trees shared the sin and releases the sin in the form of ‘gum’ and got the boon that they can grow even they cut. Sea shared the sin and released the sin in the form of ‘foam/froth’ and got the boon the at the sea cannot cross the sea shore (generally, not in some cases). Ladies shared the sin and releases the sin in the form of ‘menstruation’ every month and got the boon that they can give birth to children from menstruation.” 

.. And this is the reason why people want to remain irrational ?? Like really ? Personally i find it extremely offensive to impose stigmatization on a woman during her period just because some people still want to follow a myth that is like a million years old. Menstruation is a NORMAL BIOLOGICAL phenomena due to which a woman’s Endometrium (The inner lining of the uterus) sheds every month along with the tearing of connective blood vessels through the female genitalia , which we call a period. Hence, getting a period is an innate part of being a woman. So why all the fuss , all the restrictions and the superstitions? It is because of menstruation that women can conceive a new life when they want to. It is because of menstruation that the human race will not go extinct. Yet , some people whom i call, ‘unevolved’ try to prove their prowess by restricting and imposing women. Annoying. More annoying than these unevolved morons are the women themselves who willingly want to be a part of this irrationality and have no hesitation in passing their dogmatic beliefs to the next generation.

The female body should not be ostracized for fertility. The procreative capacity of women is not to be seen as impure. It’s obnoxious to even think otherwise. When a young girl gets her first period, don’t make her feel inferior. Instead congratulate her for her beautifully transforming into a woman. Take care of her and more than anything else, make her aware of her body ( and i’m including both the parents here). I am stunned at the moral and religious hypocrisy of people. A man who might have just raped somebody, a man who might have consumed alcohol, a man who might have committed adultery, a pervert, a wife beater, a murderer, etc etc. everybody is allowed inside places of worship at all times EXCEPT a woman who is undergoing a BIOLOGICAL process every month that makes her  CAPABLE OF GENERATING LIFE when she wants to. So who should be shamed ? A menstruating woman or the people who want to stigmatize her ? Think about it and try not being a part of the latter. Be more aware and create that awareness around you . Start from your own homes and stand up for the women in your lives if they are subjected to this mistreatment. But most of all, women themselves need to celebrate themselves. All the women who shout out aloud for  being empowered, for starters STOP BEING EMBARRASSED for your body, which by the way is the only thing capable in this world of generating life. Womanhood is to be celebrated. !!

P.S : I feel so happy today that i was never subjected to any of the above mentioned rituals ever. i owe my parents a big THANK YOU since i live in a society that stigmatizes a woman for just being a woman.


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From The Heart Of A Child :(

The last thing a 3-year-old Syrian said before he died: “I’m gonna tell God everything” :(

I happened to come across this picture on Twitter today and I haven’t been able to be at peace ever since. It just breaks my heart. It’s a picture about pain and suffering of a 3 year old boy who became a part of religious intolerance in Syria. This boy’s last words before dying were, “I am gonna tell God everything”. 😦

The child’s deeply touching words and the sentiment behind those words presents such a deprave situation of the world. These words make your eyes water and makes your heart so heavy. Is this the world we are living in ? The child wants to make an appeal to the Almighty to ‘punish’ the people who hurt him so inhumanly. If this is what a 3 year old is subjected to, what the hell are we doing ? Are we still humans or have turned into beasts ? It really is a sad state of affairs.

When will religious bigots realize that war kills not just humans but also their humanity. The kid in the picture could have been anybody’s child from any nation. What is religious intolerance and fundamentalism doing to this world ? Can we ever say that there are any real winners? No one’s winning here. In fact there can NEVER be any winners in war. The world at large loses because humanity loses. If some fanatics feel superior that they won a war by ‘controlling’ a region and killing innocent lives in the name of religion, it’s time they make sure that they still are in human form and have not turned into beasts !!


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Religion Annoys Me!

Every time i debate or even mention something that doesn’t go in favour of a particular religion or religions in general, people get riled up so soon .Pretty strange because the same people on hearing about a murder, incest, kidnapping or even rape react as if its routine..Well, that is alright because every individual thinks differently, perceives things differently and reacts differently..So nobody can impose ‘anything’ on anyone but when it comes to religion, imposition is somewhat implied and most of us hold the same common beliefs so we react the same way ..We fight..we kill..and we become some kind of bigots with the minimum tolerance level..Why is religion dividing us?
The recent killings in Nairobi are so sad..Why are people being killed in the name of religion? What is ‘Islamist Terror’? Or for that matter ‘Hindu Terror’ or ‘Christian Terror’..I mean how do believers of Islam, Hinduism or Christianity even take it? Don’t they feel awkward that something they believe in enormously, is being linked with a heinous thing like terrorism? Or is it in some way justified? If it is then its deadly and will one day destroy everything. The sad part will be, that the reason for which people around the world are ready for massive killings and bloodshed is very very futile. The reason being, “my religion is better than yours.” Seriously people what has gotten into you? Is religion even a thing to fight for? Wasn’t it supposed to be personal? Whatever happened to a personal spiritual connection with God? Whatever happened to humanity? Isn’t that what every religion essentially teaches us? Being good, being compassionate, being tolerant to any kind of belief and faith? What is the world turning into? Are we going back to the ‘Dark Ages’ because that was one time when religion was allowed to rule the world.

Personally i will any day, favour a man who even if , is an atheist but does good for humanity more than a so called religious man who kills without shame, without remorse and without fear. Religion was created by man – the most intelligent, the most ‘evolved’ species to instill some sort of discipline and control in each individual. From that moment (whenever that happened) until now we’ve changed a lot. The worst part is we haven’t progressed, we’ve digressed. Technology wise yes we have progressed, morally we’ve become worse than beasts because they at least have rules in the animal kingdom to kill their prey. We have none. In India, there was a recent scandal involving a God man with a mass following. He has charges of raping a 15 year old against him. Something like this makes us wonder that these people thrive because we make them thrive. If the charges against him are proved correct, what is going to happen to the crowds who can leave everything for believing in this man? In moments like these, the faith of believers in religion breaks into a million pieces.

Religion is the single most important factor for initiating wars. The Islamists even have a name for it – Jihad. Worst part, their war is an ongoing process killing millions of innocent lives each day. The term ‘holy war’ is such a contradiction since war can never be holy. In fact it is far from any kind of holiness. War is always about destruction. Killing hundreds of innocent people can never be holiness. Sad thing is religion and war somehow goes hand in hand. Religious intolerance is the single most important reason for war. We have so many examples – India/Pakistan, Israel/Palestine, Iran/Iraq etc. I’ll admit, at the grassroots level, religion seems like a good idea. Kind of harmless because its meant to provide a good deal of charity to communities. Also it might perform some advocacy roles which governments don’t. But the price the world is paying is a lot more than the benefits received. Before we continue, I’d like to mention that I’m not writing this post to specifically pick on any one religion. Almost all religions have the same attributes – Belief in a supernatural force, a virtuous code, and the need to spread truth to the uninitiated. The only religion that doesn’t fit the above mentioned criteria is Buddhism. Buddhism’s spiritual leader- The Dalai Lama, is quoted as saying “Don’t become a Buddhist. The world doesn’t need more buddhists. Do practice compassion. The world needs more compassion.” Can you ever imagine the Pope saying – Don’t bother becoming a catholic? Or a Muslim cleric saying – Don’t become a muslim.

God (if he exists) did not create religion, we humans did..the same humans who created alcohol, guns, warships, atomic bombs and now nuclear bombs too. Are we seriously the Almighty’s best creation as we proudly claim? Its one thing to have faith.That is nice but blind faith will destroy everything one day.I feel bizarre right now because i wasn’t really an anti-religious person until some time ago but now i’m turning into one and very very soon i’m going to turn into an atheist and proudly so .All thanks to the fundamentalists who have taken over religion and our ‘intellect’ too. We are losing logic and our rationale. I’m glad that i’m not a part of the blind crowd. I still have my ability to think, my ability to question. The sad thing is that people like me don’t get answers. People, let’s say ‘religious people, try to shut me down without providing answers.’ Not just me, every individual who is curious enough to know everything about the dangerous manoeuvring religion has been trying to do for millions of years. I need answers. Why doesn’t the Vatican allow a woman to be the supreme in command of their religion some day? Why doesn’t the Catholic church allow using contraceptives? Are they threatened? Why do the Abrahamic religions want to deem homosexuality as a sin? In this modern age, it is understood that homosexuality occurs naturally, not only in humans, but all the animal species. (Homophobia, however, only occurs in one…) And you know what? There’s nothing that happens between a homosexual couple that doesn’t happen between hetrosexual couples. Why are some propagandists of Islam killing people day in day out in the name of Jihad? Why doesn’t Hinduism allow women to enter temples when the women are on periods? What kind of a logic is that? I mean allow murders, rapists, any sort of criminals in temples but don’t allow a woman on her period? It’s just a biological phenomenon for procreating in the future.Worst part is we are people are blindly following all this.

I guess, now we are getting closer to what I believe to be the answer to the question: why is religion turning into something bad? As we learn more and more about the world in which we live, the need for a supernatural explanation for questions on where we came from and why we’re here has diminished. It’s known as the “god of the gaps” argument: if science can’t explain how something happened, then god must be the explanation. Two centuries ago God was the answer to almost everything but as Science progressed we started leaving our ignorance behind and developed a more rational approach. We began to question, and to seek answers. Bertrand Russell said once, “Religion is something left over from the infancy of our intelligence. It will fade away as we adopt reason and science as our guidelines.” It should be fading away, but it’s not. The fundamental and radical elements of religions are fighting back, literally recruiting the naive and the uneducated, brainwashing them, and discrediting the scientific knowledge to promote their supernatural explanations. For me, this is what makes religion so retrograde. Someone didn’t just wake up one day and “make up science”. Everything we take for granted today, started out as an observation, which became a hypothesis, which lead to experiments, repeated experiments, the results of which are eventually submitted for peer review. Should the results eventually pass peer review and get published, other scientists (hoping to disprove the results) analyse the data for years, looking for inconsistencies. Should a hypothesis survive this treatment, only then does it become a scientific theory.

So when I hear things like, “Evolution is only a theory” I’m just dumbfounded. What is the point some morons are making? I heard an Englishmen on TV say once, “it is only a theory, it’s good that they say that. I think, it gives you hope, doesn’t it? That maybe they feel the same way about the theory of gravity, and they might just float the fuck away.” That’s right, you know? There is just as much evidence for evolution as there is for gravity. Think about that for a minute. But something like the “creation” theory, on the other hand, does not stand up to peer review, no matter what you’ve learned in the church. The bible is not proof of anything. It’s a claim which people are forced to believe. If it were ever to stand up to scientific scrutiny, I’d be more than happy to look at it, but the simple fact is, it does not. The Dalai Lama has the right attitude about his religion. This is what his views are, “If science proves some belief of Buddhism wrong, then Buddhism will have to change.”But all other religions see science as a threat. But a threat to what? It’s a threat to their selfish interest, livelihood, and control over believers? Creationism is a last ditch effort for religion to remain relevant in an increasingly educated and secular society. While attempting to discredit the science, creationists only manage to muddy the waters, instilling enough doubt in the uneducated masses that their alternate theory might seem just as convincing..And therein lies the problem.

After centuries of scientific advancement, there is a movement afoot to drag us backwards so a supernatural belief system can survive another few years before finally fading into obscurity. Obedience without knowledge is slavery people. The slavery of religion is far worse because all you get for your pain and hard efforts in life is weekly ambiguous promises that one day you might get to heaven if you’re good. The problem with this is that no one is really sure what God considers to be good, so the followers spend their entire lives in a state of uncertainty. Religious followers put faith in religion’s teachings and then make a bunch of wild claims..And they do that because religious claims are so difficult to disapprove. They are difficult because it happened so long ago that all the witnesses are dead, and because God is basically a faceless entity.

If people think by following religious rituals exclusively and by going to temples, churches , mosques and the like , they’ve become some sort of goodish folks they are so wrong. Make the essential goodness in your heart ‘the biggest ritual’. Rest is obsolete. The best gift we can give to our next generation is A SAFER, RATIONAL AND A PEACEFUL WORLD. Do that. Stop the blind faith and stop justifying the teachings of your religion. Don’t turn into fanatics. Seek answers and most importantly – JUST TRY BEING MORE HUMAN!!


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