It Seems We’re So Invincible But The Truth is So Cold !!

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A new year , a new beginning with new hopes and new horizons to override. The pace at which life is progressing is swift and amidst everything the cycle of life continues – birth-growth-life-death.

As i was beginning to feel grateful for a lovely 2015, a loved one passed away at the eve of new year – December 31st, 2015 and the night between the eve and the next year seemed a really long one. They say – “life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.” Holds true.

I’ve seen a lot of loved ones go away to places which are unknown. Places that we mortals can only keep alive in our imagination. It’s strange how one moment somebody is a part of our life and the next moment is not to be found anywhere. You can keep searching the limits of the Earth and you still won’t find the person.

In the words of the protagonist from Life of Pi, “I suppose in the end, the whole of life becomes an act of letting go, but what always hurts the most is not taking a moment to say goodbye.” Letting go is what we ‘strong’ folks do but that feeling of wishing somebody adieu remains inside. The feeling of spending more time until we bid the final goodbye remains.

Our life doesn’t halt. We continue on our journey of self growth and we progress. We still have our moments of joy and we still laugh. We occasionally get triggered by feelings from the past and we share a smile and shed a tear at the same time. We let go of the moment and embrace the present but what is left behind is a void. The void persists. Everyone has their own special place and it cannot be substituted by anyone else. Never ever ever.

I was grateful at the end of 2015 and i still am even after losing so many people year after year because i am blessed with family & friends who are beyond words. I say this from all my heart.I read in a book once – “We all die. The goal isn’t to love forever. The goal is to CREATE something that will.” We as a family have created a legacy that will keep us united until death does us apart. I say this with all my pride and with all the love in my heart.

There are people who are remembered for all the acts they did that left a permanent imprint on people and there are others who get forgotten. If you’re remembered and respected by people even after you leave this world, i guess you’ve spent your time well in this world . Nothing lasts forever. That is for sure but memories remain .

In the words of Lord Alfred Tennyson from In Memoriam –

In words, like weeds, I’ll wrap me o’er,
Like coarsest clothes against the cold:
But that large grief which these enfold
Is given in outline and no more.

He is not here; but far away
The noise of life begins again,
And ghastly thro’ the drizzling rain
On the bald street breaks the blank day.

O living will that shalt endure
When all that seems shall suffer shock,
Rise in the spiritual rock,
Flow thro’ our deeds and make them pure.

This post is dedicated to every individual who understands the sense of loss and who knows that in the end all that matters during our stay here on Earth is the time well spent with loved ones and the legacy that we leave behind for mankind to cherish. Everything else is irrelevant.

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Family is Forever

In the years of your life when you’re growing up from a child to an adult, you take almost everything for granted. That time you’re kind of stuck in a very artificial, a very materialistic world around you. That materialistic world is actually something you find pleasure in. It sort of provides the growth you need in life – financial growth. Little do you realize that money is something you anyways ought to earn but what about the emotional growth, the psychological growth? You are happy since you feel that you are lucky enough to make it big in life. Everything is happening exactly the way you want it to be. You’re happy being a free spirit until one day when things start to change.

You start to realize that life isn’t that simple. The world is a mean place. You start feeling that pain which a lot of people were having all along but you didn’t realize they did, since your world was perfect. That is the time when you start counting your blessings and you finally realize that you were lucky all along, and you could remain a free spirit not only because of who you are but mainly because you are blessed with a family that never left your side. A family that chose to accept you exactly the way you are, and let you fly. A family that loves you so much that you never ever had the need to search for love outside. A family that is your life.

You grew up from a baby to a child, and then to a teenager and finally an adult. You came across all kinds of people – good, bad, and the ugly. You had experiences that left you wondering about life and its complexity, also sometimes about its beauty. The dynamics you had with people constantly changed since people are materialistic. But one thing that remained constant throughout was the connection, the dynamic and the bonding you had with your family. That just didn’t change and if at all it did, was for the better. In fact it was for so much better.

Every moment no matter how awesome or disgusting , your family stood by you. Took your happiness as their own, took your achievements as their own, and took your strife too, as entirely as their own. When the world left you to fend for yourself, your family provided you with the warmth that gave you so much of comfort; you forgot all your misery. When the world judged you for being different, your family celebrated that difference and taught you to stand out every single time. It taught you to be at a spot in your life which people crave for. That was the time you felt so grateful and wondered every single time – what would have you ever done without your family?

You felt that – yes now you’ve finally grown. You start drawing comparisons to people entering in your life. The more you think about your family, the more grateful you feel for them having you in their lives, at a place so special that just cannot be substituted. A place they proudly let you own. A place they will never give to anyone else. That is the time you know for sure that the place you have for your family will also. never ever be substituted. Nobody in the world can take that spot ever. It can never be worth it to share that spot. That spot is for your family exclusively. The more you love your family, the less is the need to understand the world around since it isn’t worth it. Never was, never will be. The world at large is a selfish place. But my world comprises my family and that is beautiful. So damn beautiful. Don’t really care what the world outside is up to. Let it remain mean. Let it never understand you. Let it test you. Let it give you all the pain. It’ll just make you stronger.

Who needs the world when you have a kick-ass family with a support system that is rock solid? I owe my family everything. My folks are my world 🙂

“Having a place to go – is a home. Having someone to love – is a family. Having both – is a blessing.”

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Best Christmas Ever

A while ago I was all by myself pondering  what Christmas means to me..It occurred to me, that as a child, this day meant waiting for Santa to give me the gifts I wanted (Ofcourse back then I did not have a clue that Santa was NOT real).When I grew up a little more and realized Santa wasn’t real, Christmas meant visiting my grandmum’s place and sharing it with her , indulging in food, and Carbs and everything that today I don’t really consume..Eating the Chocolate cake was the best part of Christmas..(Actually that tradition continues even today ).Today after so many years I realize that Christmas for me means counting my blessings and sinking in the feeling of awe and admiration I have for the life I live. Not a single moment did I want to live as ‘somebody else’ and best part is  I DIDN’T..:) So I’m grateful for the life I have..I get it now that this life is something that  a lot of people will never be able to live..not because they don’t have what it takes but because they will never ever be able to muster up their strength , do away with their fears and be who they really are.They will lead an existence of quiet desperation to speak out loud .

People tell me they get inspired by me..they love me for who I am..they feel I’m self made..I got different feelings..I’m independent, I’m a free being ..yes I am..but there are so many people who have made me who I am..i’m not self made..i have so many positive forces working behind me constantly ..Foremost my family..I’m grateful for the have  a kickass family I have..kickass in every sense of the word….I have always been a non-conformist..and therefore a lot of people who sadly form a part of the ‘blind crowd’ criticize me at times for being the way I am( sad thing is they admire me since they can never be me )..But I always have had this not giving a rat’s ass sort of an attitude to the ‘unfortunately blind ‘ people..and this attitude is there because I know, that  no matter what my folks are always going to be my biggest support system..i feel extremely  happy about that..but I didn’t earn it ..i just am privileged..and that is why I am grateful..What I do plan to and will earn is that feeling of self-contentment and that will not happen until I accomplish a task that right now is incomplete..i’ve got to complete it..I’ll be at peace then.

This has been the best Christmas till date because I’ve reached a point in life where being who I am means everything..Its a journey that started a long way back and I’m still pursuing it..in the way if people decide to leave..they can..if they want to pursue it with me they’ve got to walk at my pace ,even faster..Either way they’ll have to catch up..

On this day I feel so thankful for my family ,my friends, all my well wishers..My heart is filled with gratitude for all the people who think I inspire them  and that I guess, is my mission too..Inspiring people by being who I am.:) Read a quote some years back which said ,”why try so hard to fit in when you were born to stand out”. That’s my life summed up.:)

The world celebrates Christmas because they believe it is on this day that their saviour entered the world, for me I’m my biggest saviour..and what helps me is the peace within my self and that happens only when you live life on your terms and conditions..and that happens in two cases – either you have family that understands you, accepts  you the way you are happily and supports you through thick and thin or you are so strong in your being that you convince yourself on anything that you feel is right.In my case I was blessed with both.:)

Best Christmas Ever!

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