Disconnect

Standing out in a world that constantly tries to fit you in, is the hardest thing to do. The more free spirited you are ,the more pressurizing it gets to conform to the set standards of society. The more evolved you are, the more difficult it gets to connect to people. Being yourself and living your life according to your own terms and conditions is the biggest victory one can achieve in a life time. Very very few people are able to pursue being themselves. They conform easily and do not have the strength to stand up for themselves. The rest of the people include individuals like me who fight hidden battles every day just to be themselves. The fight is difficult. Really difficult but worth it.

If you happen to be one of those people who are elevated and hold a certain degree of intellect, you will find increasingly hard to connect with the world around you. You will easily get what others think but the others won’t get what you think. What you go through will be something that only you will be able to confront and solve. You get accustomed that way. There will be moments when you want to reach out because you’re only human but you will not be able to do that. The reason being that you have always managed every crisis on your own. Not just yours but every one else’s as well.

People view individuals like me as strong and rightfully so but even the most strongest person needs to reach out sometime. The feeling where you’re understood without explaining. The feeling where you just need answers and no questions. The feeling where you’re not the one who acts as the sponge for people’s issues but someone else is. However it just doesn’t happen. Didn’t happen 20 years ago. Won’t happen 20 years henceforth. So, you learn to conceal your feelings from the world because you know expressing them will be no good. It isn’t that the world does not want to understand you. Its just that the world does not know how to understand you. Hence your guard is always up. You never put it down, both literally and metaphorically.

Every change, every new phase is handled by you independently. You learn to figure out things yourself. Your inner most feelings are only yours. You learn to put a brave smiling face in front of the world because you know that there is no market for one’s issues. None at all. You don’t cry in front of people because you know that the world is not used to seeing you that way. You won’t be even given time to sob. The world likes you happy and chirpy even in the most challenging circumstances. Becomes extremely difficult sometimes, especially if you are a wise, intellectual and liberal individual. Becomes the toughest if you’re an intellectual woman.You do have that slight expectation of ‘being reached out to’ sometimes, without asking for it.  So you wait and remain optimistic that maybe someday somebody will get you. Especially the people you connect to.

Till then you keep going strong , moving ahead, learning at being stronger each day. You realize that magic is something that only you create. That is why you stand out. Always have, always will.

Truly Madly Deeply a Hopless Romantic ;)

I’m a hopeless romantic. I’m in love with the idea of love 🙂

Love for a person , love for the beauty of nature, love for literature – I just love the magic surrounding the feeling that is love. I live in my moments. I live for my moments. They count. Each moment counts. My moments are my treasure. The small gestures in life make a huge difference. They make me happy. My heart still belongs to the ‘awwwww’ moments.

I am a ‘romantic’ at heart. I live in a world i fill with ‘awe.’ I still prefer writing colourful letters to sending emails. Beauty for me is still innate and not plastic. A flower from a garden with a small bow on it is still more heart warming to me than an online apparel. Music from Led Zeppelin’s ‘Stairway to Heaven‘ still holds flavour. Poetry by Frost still delights me. A cup of coffee with a smiley on it still feels delectable. The first flake of snow still feels ambrosial. The first flower in spring still appears fascinating.

My world is still replete with allure and it will remain like that forever 🙂

A friend. A confidant. A Companion for life. 

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What is the most difficult thing to pursue in this world ? Being Yourself !

What is the easiest way to achieve it ? Land up with the right person 🙂

See a face you love each day and you’ll never run out of smiles. Talk to a bud in a partner and you’ll never wan to turn away from home. Hold hands of a champ and you’ll feel like a winner for the rest of your life.

Love, they say is unconditional. Holds true.

The universe has it planned for everyone. All you have to do is understand and catch the vibe. If being single is what makes you happy, wait for the time when you find yourself in a relationship where the happiness doubles. It takes two to make a team. It takes united two to make a damn good one.

Be the best version of yourself every single day by being with the kind of person who respects you, accepts you and loves you for who you are. A friend. A confidant. A Companion for life. That is the secret to happiness.

In the last three decades of my existence on this planet, I’ve come across a pile of definitions of love and soulmates. But here’s what touched my heart –

” …A Soulmate is someone who will make you be the most you that you can possibly be.”

I found my guy 🙂

Dedicated to you Ashie 🙂

 

Our ships have crossed – In different seas we ride – Here’s looking at you kid -Have a fantastic life :)

HAPPINESS IS WHEN YOUR SIBLING MAKES IT TO IIM-A

I still remember the day as a 7 year old child when i has asked my parents to give me a baby brother. I was a single child back then and was keen on having a younger sibling. Everyday i prayed to the almighty to grant my wish with all my innocence as if i was sure that God listens only to me. I wanted a younger sibling to play with, to have fun with, to eat with, to travel with, to see dreams with, and somebody i could inspire. Three decades later, i’m so proud to say that my brother is my biggest inspiration. The sweet adorable kid who grew up with me has made it to the flagship program of his dream destination – Indian Institute of Management – Ahmadabad (IIM-A) – One of the Top B Schools of our country and the World.

All through his younger days he saw dreams of living life a certain way. He kept moving in the direction of his goals, focused and dedicated. At his young and tender age he knows more than people do in their 50s. Over the years he has developed this amazing perspective on life which comes across as inspirational. His motto is simple – You want to live life your way, set goals , work hard and don’t stop until you achieve them. The classic quote from the movie Pursuit of Happiness is his all time favourite.

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I still remember the day he was born. My god i was ecstatic. I hear people talking about sibling rivalry , which is ok but never felt that with him. My parents did a commendable job of making sure that i felt secure as a child. That is why i felt more responsible towards him than anyone else. A friend’s mom who happened to be an excellent gynecologist was my mom’s doctor. She brought the young sweet thing in this world. I took a full day’s leave from school to just see the newest member of our family. Next day when i arrived in school, the same friend has made the cutest card congratulating me for the birth of my brother.

Feels so good right now, i remember everything 🙂 The next few years were interesting for i had a younger kid in my house different from myself. As a child he was extremely naughty but adorable. He had this habit of munching chips all the time and then not throwing their packs and keeping them under his mattress. There have been times when we found as many as 50 packs under the mattress. As if it was some sort of treasure 😀

Jokes apart, one thing that has remained consistent throughout his life, be it as a child or now – He never stopped asking questions. His curiosity to know the world is persuasive. He doesn’t conform to a set standards of beliefs or values that have been going on through the ages. He asks questions and seeks answers himself for he knows the world doesn’t have them. That is why he is so different even at his young age.

I remember the time when we used to walk to the bus stop together for boarding our school bus. The discussions we had were a pretty good way to start our day. Back then he was still evolving as an individual and tried finding answers through me , me being elder to him. A few years later he has all the answers through his own experience, his perception on life and his grasp of some brilliant books. Every discussion i have with him now is a kind of a motivational talk coming from a leader. He never comes across as younger to me. He’s taught me so much without ever knowing it. I guessed i kept picking all of it and I’ve learnt so much.

I feel extremely grateful for having him in my life. I miss the time we spent together. I do. Being in different cities, our paths may not cross but they’ll always run parallel. This is what he wrote to me recently 🙂

“Our ships have crossed. In different seas we ride.
Here’s looking at you kid. Have a fantastic life”

This post is like re-visiting a beautiful memory lane. The entire time we spent together until we left for different cities comes back as a lovely flash back. I wish him my best for life and i know for sure that this is just the beginning.

I love you Angel:)

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It Seems We’re So Invincible But The Truth is So Cold !!

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A new year , a new beginning with new hopes and new horizons to override. The pace at which life is progressing is swift and amidst everything the cycle of life continues – birth-growth-life-death.

As i was beginning to feel grateful for a lovely 2015, a loved one passed away at the eve of new year – December 31st, 2015 and the night between the eve and the next year seemed a really long one. They say – “life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.” Holds true.

I’ve seen a lot of loved ones go away to places which are unknown. Places that we mortals can only keep alive in our imagination. It’s strange how one moment somebody is a part of our life and the next moment is not to be found anywhere. You can keep searching the limits of the Earth and you still won’t find the person.

In the words of the protagonist from Life of Pi, “I suppose in the end, the whole of life becomes an act of letting go, but what always hurts the most is not taking a moment to say goodbye.” Letting go is what we ‘strong’ folks do but that feeling of wishing somebody adieu remains inside. The feeling of spending more time until we bid the final goodbye remains.

Our life doesn’t halt. We continue on our journey of self growth and we progress. We still have our moments of joy and we still laugh. We occasionally get triggered by feelings from the past and we share a smile and shed a tear at the same time. We let go of the moment and embrace the present but what is left behind is a void. The void persists. Everyone has their own special place and it cannot be substituted by anyone else. Never ever ever.

I was grateful at the end of 2015 and i still am even after losing so many people year after year because i am blessed with family & friends who are beyond words. I say this from all my heart.I read in a book once – “We all die. The goal isn’t to love forever. The goal is to CREATE something that will.” We as a family have created a legacy that will keep us united until death does us apart. I say this with all my pride and with all the love in my heart.

There are people who are remembered for all the acts they did that left a permanent imprint on people and there are others who get forgotten. If you’re remembered and respected by people even after you leave this world, i guess you’ve spent your time well in this world . Nothing lasts forever. That is for sure but memories remain .

In the words of Lord Alfred Tennyson from In Memoriam –

In words, like weeds, I’ll wrap me o’er,
Like coarsest clothes against the cold:
But that large grief which these enfold
Is given in outline and no more.

He is not here; but far away
The noise of life begins again,
And ghastly thro’ the drizzling rain
On the bald street breaks the blank day.

O living will that shalt endure
When all that seems shall suffer shock,
Rise in the spiritual rock,
Flow thro’ our deeds and make them pure.

This post is dedicated to every individual who understands the sense of loss and who knows that in the end all that matters during our stay here on Earth is the time well spent with loved ones and the legacy that we leave behind for mankind to cherish. Everything else is irrelevant.

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A Year of Reflections – From Nihilism to Optimism :)

As i sit down to write this post, i have a smile on my face, love in my heart and peace in my mind. Last year exactly this time, there was a deep sense of anguish and negativity around. There was stagnation and torpor. There was the feeling of falling down in a deep abyss where one gets lost. Took me a while to figure out what went wrong where ? Took me a while to find myself. But when i did , i did it with a boom. Now after an year i’m back in the game – More powerful, more strong, more determined , more ambitious and more successful.

The greatest lesson learnt in the previous year and something that will stay with me for my life is – Never ever give your precious access to negative people. For if they do, they destroy your essential self. They destroy you. A few months ago , i had a sense of vengeance for some people who were selfish and ungrateful. I thought of them as obstacles – obstacles in the path of my personal growth. I thought of them as ‘energy vampires’ who were trying to take away my chi (positive energy) and break into my ‘aura’. A year later, i have no sense of revenge or hate or even the remotest ill feeling for those people. I exonerated them. I purged them. I forgave them. I ‘let it go.’

Forgiveness is indeed a virtue. It helps to move on. It really does. The moment you let go of people or situations , your journey to self growth begins. A journey of transformation. A journey of optimism. A journey of happiness. In that journey , you discover yourself as a human being. You literally re-invent yourself. You don’t even remember what ills people caused you because you’re busy finding your inner ‘self’. The ‘self’ that got lost. When you find it, there is just no looking back. Life becomes cheerful. Flowers become bright again. The sky is blue. The trees are green. Music is sweet. Food is delectable. Life is beautiful and ‘you’ become ‘you’ 🙂

For each of you out there who have been hurt by people or situations, hang in there. It’ll definitely get better. The people who hurt you may or may not revive eventually but you will. I can vouch for it. I am dedicating this post to every single individual who hit rock bottom and bounced back sky high. You’re the kind of people the world looks up to. You’re winners. Cheers to that 🙂

Lastly, i want to thank some outstanding people who met me along the way and helped me discover myself. I owe them the deepest sense of gratitude for believing in me and helping me reach where i am today. You people taught me that, “Akriti Mattu can make a come back on her own.”  I totally did .

THANK you  Divya Sarjolta for being there every damn time and never ever giving up on me.(Don’t think i need to say more, i just dedicated an entire post to you recently :D) THANK you Ashish Rajta for making me your own in every single way and for respecting me for who i am; You and i have to travel an entire journey together 🙂 THANK you Ashish Ranjan for all the time and the inspirational talks and for making me realize that the vision for the future is damn important ;the present moment shall pass. You didn’t let be weak for even a day 🙂  Finally , THANK you Prateek Purohit for investing so much time on all the fun chats ( i really really needed them) and keeping that faith alive in me 🙂

I owe you all my happiness and my success. I owe you my transformation from nihilism to optimism, from negativity to positivity, finally from India to United States.

Much love

-Akriti

P.S: Shared the following quote on exactly this date last year. Came out to be true 🙂

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A Letter to My Best Friend on her Birthday :-)

 

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Best Pals 🙂

Dearest Divya,

Wish you a very happy , joyous and an auspicious Birthday. Three cheers 🙂

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It feels like yesterday when we became friends. It’s been more than a decade. A decade of awesomeness. A decade of fun. A decade of learning. A decade of growing up and finally a decade of memories. Memories that are reminiscent of every moment spent together. Moments that will always be cherished.

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How awesome is the fact that we have seen each other through ups and downs , through thick and thin , through joys and sorrows. We have literally seen each other growing up. Growing , not just in terms of physicality but emotionally, psychologically and intellectually. We have seen each other evolve.

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From the days of college when we participated together in various activities to the times spent in the university becoming a little serious, from winning accolades in academics to going on hikes to  unknown and dangerous destinations,  from eating street food with limited cash to buying each other the latest clothes, from narrating you Greek tales from my literature course to introducing me to economics, from  preparing for competitive examinations to scoring it really big in life finallyyyyyy – We have come along such a long way. We transformed from naughty teenagers to graceful young women together (well, the naughtiness still remains).

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Every time i won a medal, you were there and were always the first one to congratulate me. Every time i was awarded a fellowship, you were there to take your treat 😀 Every time i had to knock off some moron, you were there to calm me down. Every time i found myself alone in a world that tries to slow down powerful women , you were there to remind me that “the world is scared of powerful women.”  Don’t remember a single time when you were not there. I wanna thank you on your birthday for every all the times you’ve been there. You have never failed to show up. Never ever ever.

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What fun times we’ve spent together. All the trips, the outings , the night outs, the parties, the shopping, the movies, the crushes 😉 the jokes – my god i can just go on and on. I have a whole slideshow going in my head right now. I’ve seen the best of friendships being withered with time (especially women. God knows why). But not us. We were, are and will always remain friends. We have a foundation so strong that nobody in the world can shake it.

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We’ve had our share of fights too. Seems funny when i write about them now. But every fight was a lesson and a new beginning. A lot of people tried their maneuvers and aimed at creating a wedge between us. Never happened. True friendship, after all is beyond the pettiness and insecurity of people. We didn’t split but the people trying to do so ended up being really far from our lives. So good for them.

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Thanks for everything. Every single thing. Every warm embrace, every adorable gesture, every  secure hug – All of this means so much. Thanks for making me the best food in the world. Thanks for thinking i can follow and achieve my dreams. Thanks for being my  a.m friend. Thanks for listening to me criticize idiots. Thanks for wiping my tears.Thanks for making me laugh out loud. Thanks for being extremely patient with me when i yelled at you. Thanks for trusting me . Thanks for I just cannot thank you enough.11540860_10207977398333014_2540463873611283137_o

I wish you all the positivity and success in the world. Your year will be transformational and you know that very well. You deserve it. You totally do. You’re the most honest and innocent person I’ve come across. You’re not perfect but neither is rest of the world. Never change your essential ‘self’ – Never. Just learn and grow and most importantly ‘let go’ of anything that is not worth it.

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THANKS FOR JUST BEING THERE BUDDY 🙂 IT REALLY MADE A DIFFERENCE 🙂 A HUGE DIFFERENCE 🙂

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Keep rising and shining always

Lots of love –

Akriti

P.S :We were known as the ‘Dashing Duo’ in college. 10 years later, we are still called the same 🙂

 

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‘Cerebration’ Turns 2 :-)

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Wow. It’s 2 years of blogging already. What an amazing feeling  🙂

When i started 2 years ago , wasn’t even sure whether i’d pursue it for long or not. Wasn’t sure about the readership as well. In fact , I’ve mentioned this in my first post. I ended the sentence with a ,”let’s see.” Well , today after 2 outstanding years here, i can proudly say , YES i pursued my passion and YES i got readership. Not just readership but brilliant minds that form that readership. With over 4900 followers and over 19K hits , i feel so ecstatic today. I owe you all big time 🙂

Brilliant readership, talented minds, creative ideas, awesome interactions, critical appraisal – my blog has seen it all. All thanks to the amazing people who read it and constantly give their honest and valuable feedback. I’m so glad i found people from all over the world here coming from various cultures, and ethinicities. What an amazing experience.

THANK YOU ALL 🙂

Much love.

-Akriti

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I Get High on Intelligent Conversations

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There is something really inspiring about intellectual conversations. They take you to a different level altogether. You feel liberated and evolved after having them.

To have friends around, whom you can look up to is one of the most amazing things that can happen to a person. Today i had a conversation with a really good friend who described it metaphorically. He termed it as an ‘exothermic reaction’ – A reaction which releases energy . In our case the energy is positivity.

People like me often feel disconnected from others. It’s one of the quirks of being different. Now this doesn’t happen because we look down upon people. It happens because the mental acumen and the attitude towards life that people like me have is a lot more different from others. But when you have people (even if they’re few) in your life who can patiently make you listen to them (since they make so much sense) you just feel good .They are the kind of people who can provide you the exact solutions for specific situations with rationality and logic. It is said that, ” if you’re the most intelligent person in the room , you’re in the wrong room.” It holds true.

No matter how intellectual and evolved you are, no matter how successful who you are , no matter how inspiring you are – there should ALWAYS be people in your life you can look up to. People who inspire and guide you. Sometimes you just want to be understood without saying a lot. Sometimes you just want people to mentor you. Sometimes you just want to feel the magic that usually you create, coming  from a different source. It feels enfranchising. It feels emancipating.

Today was one such day 🙂

P.S: I dedicate this post to a dear friend whose words elate me.

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