A new year , a new beginning with new hopes and new horizons to override. The pace at which life is progressing is swift and amidst everything the cycle of life continues – birth-growth-life-death.
As i was beginning to feel grateful for a lovely 2015, a loved one passed away at the eve of new year – December 31st, 2015 and the night between the eve and the next year seemed a really long one. They say – “life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.” Holds true.
I’ve seen a lot of loved ones go away to places which are unknown. Places that we mortals can only keep alive in our imagination. It’s strange how one moment somebody is a part of our life and the next moment is not to be found anywhere. You can keep searching the limits of the Earth and you still won’t find the person.
In the words of the protagonist from Life of Pi, “I suppose in the end, the whole of life becomes an act of letting go, but what always hurts the most is not taking a moment to say goodbye.” Letting go is what we ‘strong’ folks do but that feeling of wishing somebody adieu remains inside. The feeling of spending more time until we bid the final goodbye remains.
Our life doesn’t halt. We continue on our journey of self growth and we progress. We still have our moments of joy and we still laugh. We occasionally get triggered by feelings from the past and we share a smile and shed a tear at the same time. We let go of the moment and embrace the present but what is left behind is a void. The void persists. Everyone has their own special place and it cannot be substituted by anyone else. Never ever ever.
I was grateful at the end of 2015 and i still am even after losing so many people year after year because i am blessed with family & friends who are beyond words. I say this from all my heart.I read in a book once – “We all die. The goal isn’t to love forever. The goal is to CREATE something that will.” We as a family have created a legacy that will keep us united until death does us apart. I say this with all my pride and with all the love in my heart.
There are people who are remembered for all the acts they did that left a permanent imprint on people and there are others who get forgotten. If you’re remembered and respected by people even after you leave this world, i guess you’ve spent your time well in this world . Nothing lasts forever. That is for sure but memories remain .
In the words of Lord Alfred Tennyson from In Memoriam –
In words, like weeds, I’ll wrap me o’er,
Like coarsest clothes against the cold:
But that large grief which these enfold
Is given in outline and no more.
He is not here; but far away
The noise of life begins again,
And ghastly thro’ the drizzling rain
On the bald street breaks the blank day.
O living will that shalt endure
When all that seems shall suffer shock,
Rise in the spiritual rock,
Flow thro’ our deeds and make them pure.
This post is dedicated to every individual who understands the sense of loss and who knows that in the end all that matters during our stay here on Earth is the time well spent with loved ones and the legacy that we leave behind for mankind to cherish. Everything else is irrelevant.
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it’s good to tell ourselves that realism, despite being boring, is the best medicine for our wishful souls
Actually Realism is challenging 🙂
Yeah
It might not go down well. …to many
Its a bitter pill.
I am sorry for your loss. A thought of Losing loved ones make our heart cry and tears spill. But as they say… life has to go on and it does….
It really does but leaving behind voids 🙂
I know…Be brave.
Reblogged this on Smorgasbord – Variety is the spice of life and commented:
Akriti Mattu on death, living forever in the hearts and minds we leave behind and also by what we have created whilst here.
Thanks for reblogging 🙂
Heart touching…written exactly as felt!! Prayers for the departed…sadly nobody is immortal it’s just the memorie lane that triggers
Thanks Aditya.
Sorry for your loss. We cannot fight the inevitable, but can make the most of the time we do have. <3 <3
Yes.
<3 <3
Akriti, I admire your healthy outlook about losing a loved one. Some losses are harder than others. Often the people around you just can’t understand. We heal at different rates of time and in different ways. I had a bereavement last spring, and I’m still trying to cope with the grief. It’s different each time.
I like something Charoltte Bronte said “I try to avoid looking forward or backward, and try to keep looking upward…” I use “forward” in stead of upward, but it’s near the same.
Looking forward to more posts from you. Have a thriving Thursday — and mega hugs!
I love this C Bronte quote. Thank you Teagan 🙂
Such a deep and meaningful piece. We must inevitably all, sooner or later, encounter the end of a life and we deal with it each in our own ways.
The line… “We all die. The goal isn’t to live forever. The goal is to CREATE something that will.” is so true and so powerful. I agree 100% with this. Death will eventually take us all and to worry about this or live your life with this at the back of your mind, is to truly waste your life.
Accept what is inevitable and unavoidable, deal with whatever life throws in your path to the best of your abilities…
… but above all else, truly LIVE…live, love and laugh…life is too short for anything else.
Thank you Darren for that thoughtful comment 🙂
After reading this blog I recalled a line from the song of Singh is King.. “Dil kisi ka agar tm jeet fiir tab ki gal hai” . Our good works must be of such types that can bring a smile on the face of every one. Even if we meet a stranger tomorrow and he wants any help for his work then our work should be so perfect that he remembers us for his whole life & he himself spreads those ideas to others by the act of his kindness..!! No one is going to live forever and I know that the loss of our loved ones gives us pain and we shed tears when we think of them but moving in our life by holding the Truth and Determination of that person, is what keeps him alive within us..!! Now as we move in our life , we can act as a guiding light for those persons that are in need of some guidance and kindness.. In this way life goes on.. Keep smiling.. 🙂
Thank you so much for this thoughtful comment 🙂
You’re welcome.. 🙂
*jeeto
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